Below are words from Inge Kathleen Hooker, winner of the 2011 PhotoPhilanthropy Activist Award. She won the award for her photo essay, “90 Days.” Hooker completed the project on behalf of The International Center of Bowling Green (WKRMAA).
It was January 2009, the beginning of the last semester of my senior year at Western Kentucky University. It was an unseasonably warm winter night as I drove with two International Center employees from Kentucky to the Nashville, Tennessee airport. We were on our way to welcome a freshly arrived Burmese refugee family to America.
When the six tired souls walked through the arrival gate, we made eye contact and with a smile and a nod, I put the camera to my eye and began a journey with that family that I hope will never end.
Over the next three months, I stayed in close contact with the International Center and almost daily I contacted their caseworker to learn what the family was doing and what the next days and weeks would hold for them.
We didn’t speak the same language, didn’t practice the same religion, nor did we share the same culture. Yet for some reason, they trusted me and let me into their lives to document them, and were always gracious and thoughtful.
I practically lived with them. I quietly observed all their firsts in this strange new land – their first snow day, English class, vaccination shots, the children’s first days of school. There were so many new experiences.

It was a fascinating few months to be there observing them awkwardly tiptoe through daily procedures that were, for me, as easy as eating or sleeping.
I was also going through my own awkward moments, trying to figure out how to tell their story best, and learning when I should maintain my distance as a journalist or put down the camera and help.
Most days I remained a journalist, and I tried my best to watch and learn. Like when the little boys would jump into the shower, fill up a bucket with water and then use a metal bowl to splash the water on themselves instead of just turning the shower’s head on.
This is a common bathing practice in Thai refugee camps because they have sporadic electricity and limited plumbing. Though it was hard, I resisted all the urges to step in and show them the amazing advances in bathing technologies.
There were other times when the choices were much more serious. Like the day I stopped by their apartment, and Mi Too’s baby was sick. Neither of them had slept for days, both parents were deeply worried.

I didn’t know if it was a serious illness or just a mild fever. I knew I was a journalist, and was not supposed to influence the situation, but what if something happened and I didn’t step in and try to help? So I picked up my car keys and took Mi Too, and the baby to the pharmacist.
It is a difficult line to walk.
After photographing the story came to a close, I published a book for the family to keep in remembrance of their first days in America, then I graduated from the university, said my goodbyes and moved to Asia in search of adventure. I have been traveling and working here for almost three years.
In December of 2011, I went home to visit both my American and Burmese family for the Christmas holidays. This was the first time I had seen them in almost three years.
I was excited to see how they had progressed, but when I arrived at their home my heart dropped. I realized that all wasn’t as it should be. The family, though financially stable, wasn’t really thriving. They were having real difficulties culturally and emotionally adjusting to what it meant to be an Eastern family living in a Western world. It was something I did not expect, but in reflection I am glad that I did. It made me realize that this story isn’t over.
They and families like them not only need the International Center’s help, but they also need people in their local community to participate in their lives and help them adjust. Giving support to people in need is not about whether or not we have money to give. It’s about stopping to learn what people really need and then giving in the best way that we can.
It’s a hard challenge because life is busy.
But pause a second. Imagine that the situation is reversed. Your family is now the refugee. You’ve fled your country to a refugee camp because your own government thinks that burning your villages and committing violence against your people is acceptable.
In the refugee camp you are safe, but you have no future or purpose. You are essentially living in a human warehouse. Then the moment comes when you see a hope, a possibility for a future and maybe even a good one, but only if you move to the other side of world.
In this world there is a promise of freedom, but when you get there you know that you will have no money, no language, no friends, different customs, climate, laws and religion. Nothing is the same, not even your toilets. It is the biggest risk of your life, but you take it for your family’s sake.
Imagine how scary this would be.

But then something beautiful happens, in the mist of your fears, one local person stopped to reach out to you. What a relief! Life would still be hard, but you are no longer alone. The gift of time and relationship would probably mean more to you than the fanciest clothes or the fastest computer.
Can we stop our life for a moment and find one person that we can help, by making their lives less lonely? That person could be a refugee or a local, rich or poor, young or old. It seems trivial, but it is not. Community is vital and rewarding.
The most curious thing that I am learning about life is that when the priority in life becomes working toward healthy relationships and community – the money, the perfect job, happiness, peace, Oh! and we can’t forget the delicious fruit (Yes, I am proudly obsessed with fruit!) – well these things somehow begin to effortlessly come. And the things that we did as acts of selflessness end up bringing more blessing and purpose to our life than we can ever contained.
By Inge Kathleen Hooker
See Inge Kathleen’s full essay here.
Learn more about the PhotoPhilanthropy Activist Awards here.